When Parents Get Frail
When parents get frail and your involvement with their lives the journey is increasing, you’ll find invaluable guidance and comfort in these resources.
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They are all worthwhile but I’ve placed MY MOTHER, YOUR MOTHER at the top of the list (instead of in its alphabetical order). It is a crucial guide. If you have time for only one book on this topic, read this one!
My Mother, Your Mother: Embracing “Slow Medicine”, the compassionate approach to caring for your aging loved ones Dennis McCullough, MD 2009 Walking you through the journey with his own mother, Dr. McCullough outlines what you can expect and how to best manage each step of the way. He explains how to avoid acute painful intervention when it won’t help and provides a practical guide for understanding, caring for and helping those you love live well during their final years.
Another Country: Navigating the Emotional Terrain of our Elders Mary Pipher, PhD 1999 As our parents and grandparents grow older, it’s hard to find the words to talk about medicine, forgetfulness, loneliness and the myriad of other challenges. Pipher writes about young-old and old-old clarifying beautifully the different challenges and opportunities of aging.
A Bittersweet Season: Caring for Our Aging Parents and Ourselves Janet Gross 2011 A fascinating book on the current US situation regarding age and care combined with the personal story about the author’s mother. As a journalist Gross puts her story in the larger context of current health care in this country and how to meet the challenges in ways both wise and loving.
Knocking on Heaven’s Door, The Path to a Better Way of Death, Katy Butler, 2013 This is one of the books which would fit well in a number of different categories on my website. It is the story of Butler’s journey as she helped shepherd each of her parents through their final decline.
She writes, “We are in a labyrinth without a path.”
When the Time Comes, Families with Aging Parents Share their Struggles and Solutions, Paula Span, 2009 Disability eventually will come to most of our parents even if it comes later in life than it used to. When parents get frail they may now require a great deal of assistance for a long amount of time. The author writes “I think of When the Time Comes as a support group in print.
I agree. Thank you Paula.
The SAVAGES Drama 2007 portrays an all-too-common dilemma: after drifting apart emotionally and geographically over the years,two siblings Wendy (Laura Linney) and Jon (Philip Seymour Hoffman) must band together to care for an elderly parent (Philip Bosco).